>> Tuesday, May 25, 2010
I was having a talk with a couple who have been trying to have a baby. She is beautiful inside and out and her husband is a great guy. They have this wonderful house with lots of room for children. The conversation is mostly one sided with her telling me about the difficulty in her conceiving. She has a hereditary illness and her doctor has recommended, after her miscarriage, for her to no longer try to conceive due to her health and possibility of dieing. She is pouring her heart out and I listen intensely as this is all she really needs.
I am moved as she tells her story with apologies to talking my ears off but a simple gesture negating her concerns, brings us back to her story. We discuss trying again vs. her health status. Then I told her about two other women as a source of inspiration and that that the human body has learned behavior not just as a part of our psyche but also in our biological make up as well. There is so much more information on Cell Memory & Organ Memory. For a more scientific articles you can see here and also here.
I remembered a couple of amazing stories of women who were pregnant several times before they became pregnant and gave birth. I believe this concept of cell memory also applies to women who are on the spectrum of the pregnancy/birth processes. I had heard of a woman who was pregnant 26 times before finally giving birth and he was expected to die but lived. He is now 7 years old. Another woman after having one son wanted another and tried to conceive up to 6 years later. Finally on a vacation in the island from causing herself stress, she became pregnant. Even in the case of a woman who had one fallopian tube and a husband with a vasectomy at 45 one can become pregnant. Perseverance mixed with great hope can make wonders. My point? I think the body is an amazing instrument. Although a miscarriage is one of the worst things that can happen to a woman, her body has learned biologically what it is made to do. Somehow for some women her inner workings need practice, training and strengthening.
As I was in sentence to suggest trying, the hopeful to be mother stated what seemed to be innate when we said simultaneously, "...it's almost as if your body is..training , becoming accustom to the process of conception and carrying...." We also discussed her health issue and is taking medicine that is resolving the medical issue she has. It was an interesting conversation that I wanted to present here. My hopeful mother left at ease and I felt very happy that she felt she had someone to listen to. Please let me know your thoughts on anything I have said as there is little information on this concept and I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks.
* Next post will be covering notes from the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium covering the Modern Day Family. Stay tuned.