>> Friday, February 26, 2010
There is so much we are meant to do while we live on this earth. So much to see and enjoy. Along the way we meet all types of people. Those who wrong us and those we wrong. We live to care for others and other to care for us. Life is about relationships. Relationships are on a spectrum. Some last and some are mini intervals to teach us something about lives or ourselves. Embracing life is two fold and intertwined with each. Embracing life gives you the freedom to be able to be alone. Something very difficult for some people. Appreciating yourself and not having to be in a romantic relationship or you' ll fall apart. It is no easy fete to have the confidence within yourself that you are comfortable with who you are and how you were created. In this frame of mind, once in a committed relationship and marriage you do not become the needy, picky, dependent, jealous spouse. Instead embracing life as a couple, you go out on outings together, concerts, bed and breakfasts, playing a sport together, builds the oness for enjoying each other. (It makes the difficult times easier to get through).
Now once your married, the misconception is that you should do everything together. This is not true. Even when married you should still embrace your life. When this blog first started, "Anonymous" made a great comment on having freedom in a marriage. I agreed. Take the opportunity of continually spending time with yourself. My motto has always been to "be your own best friend". "You don't realize the importance of "the self" until you meet someone who has no sense of self"- P.Y, Art in its Written Form.
Do you know of someone taking a dance class, initiate and join them. Is a neighbor involved in ceramic making/car and boat show, find out information from them, join them in like minded discussions and activities. Is there a coworker in the hospital, take time to do a good deed and visit them. Have you always wanted to see a certain performer, buy tickets and invite a friend you've always wanted to spend time with. Go for a walk near the water; bring a good book. Prepare financially over time, to get a make over and shopping spree.You should spend time enjoying your life separate from your spouse. Discover yourself. The older you get you will find more surprises that you never thought existed about yourself. Have a passion for your life. You are the star in it. Interestingly, you'll find your spouse taking more of an interest in you as your focus shifts.
Embracing life is a healthy balance we should not neglect ourselves and at the same time take our relationship to new heights. (I will discuss this in a later posting). Through your course of life you have met your significant other. Embrace who they are. They have become a part of you, quirks and all. Embrace them for loving you. Embrace them for choosing you. Embrace them because you chose them. Embrace them because they are still here. Embrace them because they are a part of your life, your co-star.