"I love your last name".

>> Tuesday, August 26, 2014

This morning I remembered when we were in our twenties and on date while living in New York City. We took the subway to midtown and had the best conversation. Although it was crowded on the train I forgot there were other people all around us. Somehow the conversation was on the topic of names and I so loved his last name. He really has a cool last name, I thought. In a split second without really thinking of the implications I said "I love your last name. Can I have it?" Realizing the gravity and forwardness of what I asked. I then became sober of others hearing what I had just said and beginning to feel totally embarrassed. He looked at me graciously understanding what I had meant. He then smiled, looked me in the eyes and said, "Maybe, one day". (Three years later my wish was granted).


"All About That Bass"-Meghan Trainor

>> Tuesday, August 12, 2014



>> Saturday, August 09, 2014

Cynical-Bitterly or sneeringly distrustful, contemptuous, or pessimistic. (3rd definition from Dictionary.com)

I went to a marriage retreat when I was two years a wife. It was so good for me. As married women we need so much help and this seminar was ever year. I never wanted to miss them. They were hosted in posh hotels and wisdom from all cultures were present. Food, interesting classes (wives, husbands, and some classes were mixed; dinner and dancing all for $60-$70 a night, per couple. Those were the good old days for such available prices. Also discount was due to the large attendance. One year, 500 couples were in attendance. It was great spending time with wives of all ages. Sight seeing at night with my husband was very special to me and holds many dear memories.

In one of the big conference rooms there was a class for the wives and the husbands were talking about whatever men talk about. (Actually it was about respect of your spouse). In our class the speaker was a woman who had been married for 30 years shared about something I never considered. She spoke about Bitterness. This was a foreign concept to me as a newly wed. But now I realized it was stored away for a later reference. She continued to elaborate and told a story of one particular interaction with her husband. He made a statement that she had heard so many times and she surprised herself in rolling her eyes, something she had not done before. When she looked back she realized she had been making similar small gestures, over time,which she never connected. She recalled verbally cutting him off, and having a yeah, yeah, yeah attitude, as well as mimicking him with her lips when he turned away from her. She said it was so subtle and it crept into her heart. Before you know it "Bitterness" had become "Cynical".

As her respect for him decreased so did her love for him. Her heart had become cold. A declining slope. It came to a point where she had dug her whole so deep it was strenuous digging herself out of the "Cynical Pit" she had made, unknowingly. Once out she wanted to caution all wives of the small and seemingly harmless gestures and thoughts we have about our spouse. For some who dug themselves too deep, the speaker said they could no longer salvage the relationship  which was already weighed down with other obstacles and struggles. She was so grateful to have a healthier marriage, she thought how important to share it with other wives and now I share it with you.


"Don't"- Ed Sheeran

>> Monday, July 14, 2014


Dating and Marring Late

>> Sunday, July 13, 2014

Today it's more common to date for several years before getting married. Trends are always changing. At one time society was in a rush to get married in order to avoid being an old maid. I think we are thinking smarter and realizing the importance of men and women getting an education and earning money. Loving life and dating, enjoying your life in a healthy manner before taking the big commitment vow. This helps towards a better sense for knowing oneself, being more seasoned in life and having more confidence in the one you are saying yes to. It is very common for people to marry in their 30's than their 20's. A common fear for women is being unable to have children, Increasingly, women in their 30's and 40's, having children, continues to be on the rise. , Whatever stage you are in enjoy your life. You have to have a healthy balance in comparison to all the work you do. This makes for a healthy you first before finding the other half of you.  


"Rather Be"-Clean Bandit (feat Jess Glynne)

>> Wednesday, July 09, 2014




>> Friday, May 23, 2014

We try to make sense of our plight, when we have no control over a situation. When we try to make sense of what is happening to us. When we do not see a solution or our set goal in sight. When our goal for a job, a relationship, a project is taking too long to come to fruition; it is extremly frustrating. Usually in these cases you are waiting for other people to assist in setting the foundation, or play a part that is necessary for your vision to become a reality. Waiting, waiting and waiting will make you mad and drive you mad. The more steps the more you wait for the fruit of your labor. In the meantime you are loosing money or not earning money; stuck physically, mentally. emotionally and finacially. There are times you may just have a "break". Possibly mild possibley big, but tears are expected to fall from the difficulty of your situation, And how did it come to this anyway? It was not what you planned or expected. But here you are. Then there is the support of people in your life that can be no support at all or just worst, appear to have no faith in you and/or your vision.

Then just like that after months or even years, on a day you did not expect, because of course you had many days of expectation and nothing-it happens. You're still in disbelief after believing for soooo long. Once you have what you want, you realize the real work begins and this can be scary and exciting at the same time. All is now worth the "torture" you experienced leading up to this point. Now take a further look back at the picture. Peer even further into all the incidents which led up to your victory. Link all meetings, conversations, mistakes, unknown influence and unknown key persons. Think of the changes you had to make and tweaking of your plan and following leads. All are breadcrumbs left for you to follow and lead you to your goal. Led by something greater than yourself. You look back and realize how much stronger you are for the task, how much desire has been built up and harness to take you the distance. You realize there is no way I did this on my own and at times you were kicking and screaming, while somehow and unknowingly being "carried". Last of all, you have become wiser for the mission and for life in general. Next time you may follow the breadcrumbs by deliberately looking for them, making the process less stressful and far more exciting. This is maturity and you have entered its gates.....by breadcrumbs.